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Is it an exaggeration to say that most people have an addiction of one sort or another? For example, cigarettes, alcohol, pills, drugs, sex, shopping, gambling, etc. etc. Fat people are addicted to food, and they cannot hide their addictions (unless they're bulimic). Why is it that so many people are disgusted by them and down on them? They're looked upon as out of control slobs or whatever other moniker is slapped on them. Other addictions are more easily hidden, and those who criticize fat people very likely have an addiction of their own, and are bigots. (People who live in glass houses....) How do you identify a compulsive gambler on a bus? Why is an addiction to food looked upon as so disgusting and out of control when there are many other equally addictive behaviors? If anything, conquering a food addiction is more difficult than others because you can't just quit food cold turkey. After thinking about this I now have much more compassion for overweight people. Arguments about exercise don't fly too far either-- it takes a lot more than exercise to lose weight.

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Anonymous (1/19): I feel bad for overweight people because i know its not easy to lose weight. I also think addictions need to be addressed. What do you think when you see a person smoking that has a hole in their throat or a person drinking that you know is an alcoholic. Addictions ruin lives, eating is no different. When people don't address addictions it drives everyone around them crazy. I have a hard time watching an overwieght person eat a large fried meal at KFC. (report)

justagirl101 (4/5): it is hard to for some over weight people to loose weight, i'm a little person but not even i can loose the little lbs i want to. It has become so socially acceptable in my eyes. I heard this once and it made me think. So say your at a dinner table with a "fat" person and a person who smokes. You would normally tell the person who smokes to not smoke. but no one ever tells the "fat" person to stop eating. am i right? But now if the fat people who don't care or say they care and are eating 5 big macs at mcdonalds, i do have a problem seeing that. (report)

runrunrun (8/28): Ok wait are you arguing that most obese people are addictied to food because if this is the case then you should undestand an addiction is ( for most people) only over come after you hit rock bottem. You shouldnt feel sorry. You should pitty them you should make obese people feel diffrent becuase if you dont then nothing will change there out look on life. You said that it is a addiction, and like any other addiction it requiers a drastic change of life style to be healthier. A obese person can not just get the idea of getting thin and hit the gym once or twice a week. While coming home to a Lg pizza and diet 2 lt coke. It takes a long-term diet and excercize to loose wait. I understand that there is a genetic endowmen for obese people, and a slow metabalism, they do have the most abundent drug ( High Carb, Hight fat foods ). They can walk into any supermarket and pick up a box of powdered dounts for lunch everyday. If anyone ever bring up the subject , they say its "genetic". If you really have a genetic endowmen then im sorr but thats only half of the problem, you can loose wait . It a mission and its hard and it sucks every minute your doing it. It is a life long change that takes so much will power. BUT IT CAN BE DONE (report)

MsPiggy (12/5): I am a fat person and it is hard to lose weight, but I think it's our own fault we are to fat and lazy because our problem is over eating or lack of exercise. It's not that hard to run a mile a day, I promise, and you just need to stop eating when you are full and eat healthier choices. But it is also societys fault. In school lunches they provide hardly any healthy choices for example the options most days are pizza, powerade, fries, hamburgers, and maybe vegetables every once in a while. People blame it on restraunts, but you know what if you do have a problem with being fat you should ask them how it's made is it fried is it boiled? when you walk into mcdonalds you know the food is gonna be greasy, unhealthy, fried heartstopping, artery clogging food. (report)

moe (1/21): I take issue with runrunrun's comment. If you insult fat people you are not helping, you just drive them away. You don't scream insults at an alcoholic. Actually all the insults, gaping stares, etc makes you withdraw. You don't do things that you'd otherwise do, have less activities, have less fun, less exercise. Which means the one thing that does give you some pleasure is eating. Which makes everything else worse. No friends, no fun. Then one day you die, either from eating yourself to death or from a gun. (report)

Anonymous (3/16): It's a bit ridiculous for you to compare being fat to an addiction, but if you insist, smokers aren't off the hook. I don't want to breathe in second hand smoke. Alcoholics aren't off the hook. I don't want a drunk driver to run into me. Likewise fat people can weigh down society with their problems. Instead of complaining about criticism fat people should work on changing themselves. You know the majority of the people of the world don't have a problem being fat. Why is that? Can't have your cake and eat it too. (report)

Anonymous (3/27): I don't think that people should be judge because of how much they eat or on how little they eat.Though im not overweight,I don't like it when people make fun of others for being something they arn't.People love food but some overweight people don't even eat alot they are overweight maybe because of the types of musle they have my mom is big but she hardly eats so why is she if she dosen't eat I think it is because of Pregnecy she had Five kids and she didn't gain any weight until after she had me and i'm the baby in the family but it shouldn't be the size that counts it should be based on who you are as a person!! (report)

abbeyxx (3/27): Yes, but i wouldn't be friends with someone who's unhealthy. Smoker, druggie, or obese person, wouldn't be my friends because i want healthy friends. (report)

FatladyinUK (7/19): I agree with most of what you have said, female mid-40s, but why assume that fat people are addicted to food? Everyone I know eats several times a day, would you call that an addiction? I eat only 2 or sometimes 3 modest meals a day, no snacks, no sweets, no alcohol, yet I am fat. I'm not addicted to food and eat less than most people I know. (report)

catgirl (8/10): I'm overweight. The people that have criticized me the most make unhealthy choices concerning their health as well. I was walking down the street and grown men were tripping over themselves from drinking and one of them yelled to me about me being fat. My ex-boyfriend smoked a pack and a half a day of cigarettes, drank coffee and soda without eating anything much of nutritional value, and another person that criticized me about my weight used drugs. So the people that criticize me about my overeating are drug users, addicted to cigarettes and coffee, and drink enough alcohol to trip over themselves. I used to be very thin most of my life and I went on a medication three years ago and I have gained 60 pounds over that course. Partly is I haven't limited my dessert intake. I get some exercise but not enough. But before you critise someone on their fault, look at the log in your own eye. You may be thin, but you still have something unhealthy you are doing. If someone overweight is eating "five big macs" right next to you, look away. You're the one being rude staring. Its a public restaurant and people should be able to order food and eat it without being judged. And I'm sure an overweight person isn't eating 5 big macs at one sitting. It probably is more like one or two but because they are heavy you assume they shouldn't eat at all. I had a tiny little body three years ago and since I have gained weight people have treated me different. When I lose the weight I will remember their faces and I will not associate with them. (report)

catgirl (8/10): And another thing I am not 'fat people'. I am a person. Just as worthy and valuable as when I was thin. I knew that people that are overweight had it difficult from prejudice, but I had no idea until I gained weight. I didn't realize how bad. Instead of expecting a 'fat person' to change themselves, why don't you change how you treat people, your biases against them. That your compassion for them isn't conditional. The thin people you approve of can get 'fat' just like I did. I want to lose weight and get fit and healthy again and not fear I may get a blood clot or a stroke at 27 years old. But I'm still a person and worthy of respect. I don't really eat that much in public because I don't want individuals that are self-righteous and have 'elite' ideas about the human body, staring at me and judging. So I miss out on the enjoyment and eat the most at home. But most of this I don't think is out of concern, I think alot of you just don't like to look at an overweight person. Why do you see past the human being and that they are just as worthy as you and look straight at their "fat" instead? (report)

Anonymous (9/20): Hey , this sounds like a website that has been posted by a fat slob him/herself. (report)

toluckyforu (2/11): think how many thin ppl are rich because of fat ppl.alot i can guarentee u.with out fat ppl they would be broke or making money off some other poor soul. (report)

Anonymous (7/19): It's not unfair. Fat people are sick. Not everyone in society has an addiction and those that do can do something about it. You want sympathy? Too bad, you're not going to get it...why should thin people give you sympathy? So you can feel good about being fat and do nothing about it. I don't care what condition you claim to have, you can lose weight and should have taken precautions to prevent the weight gain in the first place. It's simple, moderate your caloric intake. Eat foods which are nutrient dense (don't shove fast food in your fat face) and get some exercise. It's that simple, do this and you will no longer be a disgusting eye sore for the rest of us...but go ahead, come up with an excuse as to why this won't work for you. Go eat your cake and cry because it comforts you and your lack of self-control. Yuck...and to the people that say fat people deserve respect just like everyone else, not true...exercise some self control and respect yourself. How could I give you any respect if you have no respect for your sick fat self?!?! (report)

Anonymous (10/10): Why do fat people give the best head? Because they're always hungry. 'Nuff said (report)

Anonymous (4/8): People don't make it easy for over weight people. If you don't like us or like to look at us fine, but you don't need to make fun of us. (report)

Anonymous (4/17): This isn't an addiction anymore. It is a cultural problem when 66% of American adults are overweight. It isn't so much that they eat too much as it is what they eat. There wasn't this problem 40 years ago and most other countries do not have this problem. Either America started to become ultra lazy and gorge in or what people eat is inherently bad for them. Some people do have a food addiction but I would guess the actual percentage of people with this addiction is closer to what other addictions are. But because they are in a small percentage of overweight people they get the short end of the stick. If you are addicted to food then eat 5 pounds of lettuce a day instead of 2 gallons of Ice Cream. I feel no sympathy for any of them. They are all just dumb fat fucks that would rather wash their crotch with a chicken wing than with BBQ sauce >:o (report)

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Jimbo (1/10): I agree that the ones who criticize the most are likely the ones who have something else they dislike about themselves, that they are trying to hide from the world. But on the other hand, you have to admit that this particuliar problem is way out of hand in this country, and the two thirds of our society that is overweight need to wake up and do something about it. I had friends who are overweight, and though they seem to be very likable people they are teaching their habits to their children, and now their children are overweight, which they were not five years ago. I felt their choices were theirs to make until I saw that it is their children who will suffer. Now I have lost my respect for them. (report)

killerboots (1/25): I don't agree with that much sympathy. If obesity is an addiction and we treated it as such there would be less sympathy and no tolerance of it. A big percentage of food addictions stem from the individuals psychological well being and self esteem more than any un-natural attraction to food. These are the real issues that need to be addressed. A fit or obese individual does not mean a healthy one. More symptathy only makes obesity in general more tolerated. If it is more tolerated then it will become more common, which is why you have entire families that are "big boned". (report)

occaeco (7/17): I agree that people can be assholes when it comes to overweight people, but food isn't addictive. PERIOD!!! I eat when I need to and actually lost 15 lbs when I went to college because I wasn't as active. Yes, yes, I know what comes next. "You are very lucky that your genetics keep you so thin." Right? Well, maybe so, but ultimately I just don't eat to eat. (report)

occaeco (7/17): To add a little more... America has and obesity problem, with your logic our whole damn country is a bunch of addicts. We should lock them all up like the assholes that have tried to lock me up for my addictions and mine aren't food! I bet if we started arresting people wouldn't be so fat. After I was arrested it curbed my use of certain substances and I have no doubt it would do the same to fat people. I'm being a bit outrageous, but there is a point to this sarcasm. (report)

fplaza (10/18): fat people are not well treated because they dont fit in human notion of beauty....and that is natural selection...few people will like to have sex with fat women, many will prefer thin women, and that preference have a science source..fat people die younger, they have bad health, etc...so its totally human to dislike fat people...is in our genes, we tend to search for phisic characters that denote good health, good genes for our sons, etc, and any explicit factor that shows weekness in this factors make us look for somewone else....i�m not trying to say that is good that we bother fat people or anything like that, i am just sayin that there is a scientific explanation for that behaviour, and its totally human... (report)

Anonymous (3/26): if you are saying lard asses are fat because they are addicted to food, then you say fags were born gay. Which usually means you are either fat or gay. People aren't addicted to food and fags aren't born with dicks in their ass. Its a choice. you may argue that people don't choose to be fat. but in return they choose not to be committed in their goals for success. if you would like to argue more about this aim me at lovescakemix, and we can chat to your hearts content (report)

Fatalist (4/25): Its easier than shit to lose weight. And, its not that addiction is disgusting (though in the cases of food, drugs, and a couple others are). Its that fat in itself is grotesque. People can change their diets and exercise. I eat alot and exercise and I have 11% body fat. It only takes self control. If people sit around and eat shit-food (chips, soda, candy), its their own fault. And, genetics only go so far, its harder for some people, but its not impossible. It all comes down to being lazy and stupid. "If someone has a disease, or someone is injured, those are also weak excuses. Take dietary pills, or possibly do exercises that dont require overuse of things that are in pain. (sit-ups, yoga, etc...) People shouldnt feel bad for obease people at all. I am an ex-fatty. Rather than sit around all the time I started running. 5 min here and there, nothing too extreme but just a little effort. In a few weeks i was easily noticing the effects. If someone says they cant exercise because they're too tired, they're imbeciles. Not exercising makes you tired. You become dependant on an abundance of rest which makes you weak. Fatties are an eye-sore and a blight to society, and should be stopped. (report)

Anonymous (7/19): Being overweight is nobody else's business anyway. Who in this world is such a perfect model of perfection that they are in a position to criticise others? (report)

FatladyinUK (7/19): Reading the posts of people like Fatalist I see that ignorance and fascism are alive and well. I am fat, and I really resent Fatalist's assumption that I am stupid or that I sit around all day eating chips soda and candy. I have not eaten anything made of potato, sugar or flour for seven years, but I am still fat. I do not drink alcohol, but I am still fat. As for being stupid, I have a master's degree (in psychology) and teach at university. Oh, and unlike him, I can spell! The fact is, whether you like it or not, some people are going to be wider than fascists like you want them to be, just as some will be taller, shorter, Jewish or black. I wonder what YOU look like, fascist? Are you a paragon of perfection? Are you? Do you have no physical faults? We can see you have a big personality fault, and that to my mind is far worse than being fat! (report)

annie (7/22): what the heck !!!!!!!!!!!!!i luv fat people so much (report)

FoodieFoo (7/29): All mammals are addicts by nature. Addicted to what feels good. Dopamine induced highs are what all mammals are after. That is why Nicotine, heroin and cocaine feel so good to addicts. They all induce dopamine production. We all get addicted to what makes us feel the best we can feel. To say that food is not an addiction is ignorant. We have to learn to control the addiction. But you can not just stop eating. It is a lifestyle change and comes with it's own form of detoxification just like any other addiction. You have to exercise to lose weight and lose weight to exercise. It is not easy as some people may think. Addictions are all the same. They feed a basic need to feel good or better. Even if it means long term physical harm some people can not break their addictions. Food is no different for those addicted to it. Don't take my word for it go and research it for yourself. (report)

FoodieFoo (7/29): I agree, Fatalist does not have a clue what we are taking about. Simply loosing a few vanity pounds is not what this is about. This is about serious weight loss. If you can run for five minutes then you are not seriously obese. We are taking about people who can not run. People who have trouble moving and getting around. Not someone who wants to drop 15 pounds for the summer swim suit season. I have no idea what Fatalists idea of fat is but I do not think it's in the same ballpark as this conversation. Some narrow minded people will never understand. (report)

Boommmm (9/11): you know, not all fat people are addicted to food you douche (report)

lexius (10/21): Because the fat ass at McDonald's is no different than the crack head in the alley behind McDonald's. You said it yourself....ADDICTION. (report)

nenaroxz (7/23): as an over weight person my self i agree with what you are saying becuase its tru people do criticies me for " having an eating disorder " and it is very hard to get rid of the weight im not tht over weight but im not like all the girls at school who are in a size two so they leave me out of things for example sport they left me out of because they thought becasue i was over weight i wouldnt be able to run but in fact i was the fastest person in my class noone could catch me at anything so fuk the people who rekon im fat (report)

Anonymous (9/15): come on people you dont just wake up one day fat, fat people know what their doing and dont want to help themselves their just like any other addict and have no respect for themselves if they wanted to stop eating they would but they dont so no sympathy (report)

onmyway (10/19): im a fat 18 year old i used to be thin but my healthy lifestyle sort of collapsed when i was 11 and went to high school, i started over eating and became a 18 stone something. luckily im pretty tall and i can carry alot of my wieght and within the last year ive been loosing and gaining wieght im down to 16 stone 12 as i write this now. its a long process but eventually i'll get there. i know i just need to stick at it and learn from my mistakes, like on friday i played a great game of squash but the following saturday night i went out got drunk and ate curry, naan the works, not healthy at all. but now i think to myself, i wont do that again. anyway personnaly i think the problem with food is your attitude towards it, thinking of it more a smaller part of your life. i understand that its very difficult to change attitudes ect. i know im still struggling with my attitde towards food. but i think nowadays if i'd had the diet i have now when i was 11 id be fine, but i was a little bugger and ate biscuits by packet load, but i dont do that now, so maybe my attidues have changed. (report)

Anonymous (11/21): I'm fat and obesity is NOT due to an addiction. An addiction results from the repeated use of a substance to the point that is essentially changes the physical and chemical functions of the body to the point that you can no longer physically function with out that substance. This is why withdrawal can be fatal to people. REAL possible causes of obesity include: Having a genetic disposition to be larger, Having hypothyroidism, Having psychological issues, simply eat too much and don't move, or a combination of those. The bottom like is that you take in too many calories than you use. Once you reverse that (use more calories than you take in) you loose weight... no exceptions. I myself ate too damn much, didn't get enough physical activity, and had an under active thyroid. By taking medication to supplement for the low thyroxin levels in my system, and an appetite suppressant to eliminate cravings, combined with an increase in physical activity I've had a net loss of 70lbs so far and I continue to loose weight. My only marginally life threatening health problem is borderline hypertension, which is actually non existent now due to medication and weight loss. I was never addicted to food. I've never heard of being addicted to food as being a legitimate excuse. Yes food can trigger a chemical reaction in the brain similar to that of drugs, but it does not DAMAGE you like drugs. Everyone alive eats, if food was addictive EVERYONE would likely be addicted. If anything it's likely a self reinforced delusion of addiction caused by underlying psychological factors. Fact of the matter is you just like to eat. There may be an actual physical condition that may impede weight loss, but you are not addicted to food. Until you are willing to admit this to yourself and take the steps to deal with it (instead of using it as an excuse to continue the behavior) you will stay the way you are. (report)

Anonymous (11/24): I agree with this post too much. It seems like the world or the nation at least expects us all to be skinny. I am an overweight person, but I am also large in frame. I am trying to lose weight but I am not beating myself up at it. People seem to look down on fat people because the media feels that fat isn't good. Me, I don't care if a woman has extra weight on them. Personally, it's a common misconception that overweight people feed on donuts, fast food, etc. 24/7. I am overweight, but I know my limits when it comes to those foods. One of the reasons I am overweight is because of my metabolism. Understand this: Unlike a lot of people I don't gain or lose weight too easily. Someone said it could be medication. I don't feed on fatty foods too much, remember that. I carry my weight well. Does society expect all women to have the body of a cover girl model that she has to look great in a bikini? Does society expect guys to have rock hard abs and an overall muscular tone? I have my moments when I overeat, but at least I can control it. Society just plain sucks in my opinion. I agree, overweight people should do something about it, but I don't like how people always feel that they have to put down fat people. Again, does society expect us all to be thin or fit? (report)

minnie2 (3/2): I agree, as an over weight adult it is depressing to be an over eater and I am out of control, but when met by prejudice or rude remarks it makes me more upset and depressed, and I go home and eat more. I need help and I know it, so be kind to fat folks we are among the most unhappy group in the universe Thanks Lynn (report)

Anonymous (4/1): People don't like fat people because they are sweaty, blubbery, have more chins than are countable, have giant man tits, smell bad. Not to mention that "fat people make slapping sounds when they walk in a room". (report)

pgrant58 (4/16): Number one- just because someone is overweight does not mean they are addicted to food. Does it ever dawn on people that there might be a medical problem in this person? Does no one take into concideration that age might have something to do with it? How long are we expected to look like a thin twenty year old? 90+? Grow up and quit being so stupid. If your going to slam soneone at least get a few facts right. (report)

Anonymous (11/11): It's true that people shouldn't judge -- however, obesity is very unhealthy, and you're correct about the addiction to food -- but there are millions of people who conquer their addictions every day. All you need is willpower. If people accept being fat as okay, then they are accepting an unhealthy lifestyle. As long as one eats healthy and maintains proper exercise daily, then it's quite easy to stay in shape. And it's also said that some people cannot help being fat; but that's a very minute percentage of the population. Many others, for whatever reasons, eat junk food everyday and then expect the public not to judge. If fat people are so upset about being judged, then why can't they take the time out to live a healthy lifestyle? Make some sacrifices, and your weight will go down. It's not only the obesity that will decrease, but also many cardiac problems and such... (report)

Anonymous (6/1): the more we make been overweight acceptable the worse society is going to be come, sure dont say anything to the fat person, you dont want to hurt there fucking feelings no do we. it sickens me to see over weight people at kfc and McDonalds and yet they think there perfectly ok. well your not your a god dam discrace to the human race. No one is born 500pounds of fat, just like no one is born with a muscley toned body you have to work at it. looking down the street you can tell lazy people by the sheer size of them. i use to be a little bit over weight but i changed that with 10hours a week of hard gym. so dont tell me your born like that, all your doing is making your self feel better. Also why the fuck do people use food as comfort, if you get called fat, overweight i simply do not see the logic in going home and eating, you get called fat so you eat a cake? that is about as inteligent as playing with on-coming traffic. i simpily didnt like my body so i changed by doing gym. that simple. for all the fat people out there that think that there perfectly ok, you probley should head butt a bullet because the world doesnt need any more people in denile (report)

Anonymous (10/27): Id just like to add that: you never know how someones life has treated them, one of the many horrible effects on adult survivors of childhood abuse is all types of eating disorders.. (report)

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