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Screaming kids - Selfish Parents
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Whatever happened to the notion of removing your screaming baby or child from a church service, a restaurant, or store...any public place and returning when they are calmed down? I am so amazed when parents act like they are oblivious to their child's behavior and just ignore their screaming or banging on the table. My husband took me to a romantic, small Italian restaurant for a special dinner and the table across from us had 2 small children who were throwing food and screaching loudly when they'd hit their target...each other! Both sets of parents totally ignored what their kids were doing and kept on talking amongst themselves. Finally, after 15 minutes of this nonsense, they paid their bill and left....totally unaware that they had disrupted everyone's dinner. Don't get me wrong, I know how difficult it can be for children to be quiet and well-mannered in social settings...I've raised 4....but they all grew up respecting others and understanding how to act when we took them out. It doesn't come naturally, you have to teach manners...when they acted out my husband and I took turns taking them outside and explaining why they needed to behave. When the social setting wasn't appropriate for small children, we left them at home with the babysitter. I don't blame the kids, I blame the selfish parents who don't take the time to teach their kids how to act and could care less about those of us who are subjected to their obnoxious behavior.
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Posted by:
yoohoo2
(female, late-50s)
(Posted 8/9/05)
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Anonymous
(8/30):
Yes...having parents with upset children present can be unpleasant. Bear in mind, though, was it really the child's choice to come in the first place? I don't disagree with you on the sad sight of children crying amongst a public setting, but why ignore it with the invalid assumption of "Oh, there just not behaving?" Who says what's the "right" way to "behave"? Adults, in my experience (me being 48 this year), are when in comparison to children, perhaps the most full of shit, pretentious fools you'll ever come across. Yet, there are some cases where the child is indeed crying, but the ignorance of those who just "can't stand" having something like that occur doesn't allow for mutual understanding of the situation, only just equally selfish retorts of being publically insulted by the child's presence. So the next time any of you come across a screaming or crying child in public, at least try to understand the real reason they're upset rather than just resorting to the "misbehaved" cliche.
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jay
(9/8):
in regards to teaching your children how to behave, how old were the children? you cant expect an at least 2 year old to know he is disturbing someone elses romantic dinner. How do you teach him to behave do tell?!!!!
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Anonymous
(3/7):
I think you all sound out of control and crazy!! I have 4 kids and yes they will miss behave in public. First my son is 9 ever since he was a baby I could take him anywhere, including watching an adult movie without a problem even at home he's an angel. My daughter's on the other hand 4&2 will not listen to a word I say. I'll tell them when we are going somewhere and they need to be on their best behavior and use indoor voices.I'll tell them they'll be rewarded for good behavior. But, they'll still misbehave and I'll take them outside of the situation and they still will not listen. I 've tried different ways of punishing them but, nothing seems to work.As babies I spoiled them with so much love. But they just don't listen.None brings a child out to a resaurant intending on ruining someone else's night. Also, if you keep them at home and not around other people such as in a resaurant the will be even worse because they will not learn how to behave.
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Ballerina
(8/10):
I agree completely!!! In this world of Dr. Spock permissive parents, I have come to absolutely hate children!
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cali
(8/26):
Children should be seen but not heard!
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CaptAmerica
(8/27):
It's all up to the Parents! They gotta do their job!
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IceMan
(8/31):
Nothing I hate more then kids crying right in my ear!
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BlueSorceress
(8/13):
I agree...No matter which restaurant we go to anymore, we always seem to be stuck sitting next to the family with the shrieking, whining kids. MY kids don't act like thats!! If they did, I'd leave them home!
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Anonymous
(2/26):
Tell me about it.
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Shadycat
(12/6):
Regardless of any REASON for crying or screaming, it's inappropriate in a public setting, and the responsibility of the adult in charge to correct or remove the behavior immediately. There is no excuse except lack of parenting, laziness or entitlement.
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lovekidsifucookemright
(6/19):
I've never understood why the people who get so offended by someone suggesting that a crying child should be dealt with. How is it good parenting to let the child just cry? Solve both problems, remove the child from the environment. As far as trying to understand why the child is crying, I'm not supposed to presume to know these other people's particular situation, everybody's differnt. I don't care to know, just solve the problem ie the crying child. I don't understand why the solution is me accommodating the child's presence while the parents do NOTHING. As far as the "right" way to behave, it sure isn't by screaming in public, otherwise adults would be allowed to do it too. If a child is behaving in a way that, as an adult, it would be frowned upon or even disapproved of, the children shouldn't be doing it either. They will never become adults without being taught to act like adults.
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marama
(8/12):
It's this kind of lazy permissive parenting that calls a complete lack of moral values liberalism or freedom or "natural parenting". Then their children grow up start breaking the law and running amok and the parents then point their finger at society in general looking for someone to blame for their uncontrollable children. These people are not parents; they are empty uniforms. Their unruly children are out of control because they never learnt the difference between right and wrong. But it's much easier for bad parents to blame the schools or society or rap music etc than admit that they screwed up.
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Anonymous
(12/6):
Sometimes, when I go to our local Walmart store with my parents to do some shopping, I'll hear an obnoxious brat screaming, yelling, and throwing a fit at the top of his or her lungs, and after awhile I just want to scream, "Shut up already you annoying little monster!" Instead, not wanting to cause a scene, I'll just say, "Shut up, kid," quietly and to myself. I could go on and on about the number of times I've had to see or hear children behave badly, and fearing being reported on for child abuse, the parents act totally helpless and do nothing to control the irritating behavior. Unfortunately, there isn't enough space in this Comment Box, so I'll just say this: Just because it's hard being a parent, it doesn't give you the right to allow your little snots to behave badly and totally disrupt what could have been a quiet and peaceful outing for the rest of us, okay? PLEASE CONTROL YOUR KIDS!!!!! Otherwise, how do you expect them to behave like respectful, civilized adults? I love children when they are tiny newborn babies, and I oppose abortion, but bratty, uncivilized kids make me VERY thankful I never became a mom.
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Anonymous
(12/30):
Hate screamin kids in my ear when I try to go out to eat with the wife. Dont even go to movies anymore since people seem to think its fine to bring their screaming kid into the theater. Here's an idea...order out your meals and watch DVD's until the child is able to sit through a meal or movie without ruining the experience for everyone else.
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