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Good friends splitting up because he is gay
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I was crushed to hear today that good friends are splitting up because he announced he's gay. They have probably been married for 15. They are the nicest people with three great kids and as a family unit they are awesome. My husband is not surprised at all because he said he could tell - he is kind of afeminate (sp?). But, I just never believed it because they worked so well as a couple. I would get so mad at my husband for judging my friend because he was less masculine acting. And he was right all along. I am just crushed for this couple, sad for her to lose her whole family identity and worried for him as he steps away from the security of marriage to make some huge changes in his life.
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Posted by:
JBcuz
(female, 40-ish)
(Posted 10/6/05)
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TicalBits
(10/14):
I'm sure he's just faking it to get out of a relationship he feels stuck in.
Excuse my while I jot this concept down in my notepad.
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Anonymous
(11/3):
Imagine living a lie. I cannot; he gave it as good a try as he could, but the truth will out eventually. It may be sad, but it is really hard to stay in a marriage playing a role, going thru the motions, and not be your true self. It takes a lot of balls to leave. I wish them all the best - not easy for anyone.
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occaeco
(9/24):
I think the man was confused for a long time and he finally did what is best for him. He ROCKS!!! in his world.
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Anonymous
(12/10):
The reason your husband knew and you didn't was becuase gays have gaydar. Watch out! He'll be next.
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Anonymous
(10/6):
this is just like what happened to misha's old boyfriends family in the O.C. TV show. That's rough for everyone.
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cstraw
(10/7):
How sad. It must be awful for his wife and children, not only having to deal with the marriage breaking up, but now dealing with his homosexuality (not that being homosexual is bad, but the fact that it's come out of nowhere is a tough one.) I can't imagine being married for 15 years and have this happen with me and my husband. I'd be crushed.
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Anonymous
(11/8):
I think it's extremely difficult for many gay men to acknowledge their own sexuality. Due to pressure from family, church and society many feel forced to accept a straight-appearing life-style and even marry and raise families. Ultimately, their native sexuality will come to the surface and overwhelm them. I try to sympathize with these men, because I know how difficult their road has been. However, when I see the wreckage they leave behind because they tried to appear straight, it makes my heart heavy. As a gay man myself, I know what pressures society can inflict on homosexuals, but many of us worked through those pressures and made a different kind of life and did not destroy the lives of others in the process.
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Anonymous
(12/10):
If this society weren't so screwed up to seperate gays from straights, things would be a LOT better. Gays get marginalized! No WONDER they don't want to "come Out!!" I wouldn't want to either, knowing jerks like your husband are giving nice guys like him a hard time by judging. BOO HISS.
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Anonymous
(8/9):
dude i do not really approve of gays but i would HATE himi if he had a chance to not get married. he was already married had kids and had a wonder ful wife(im geussing) but he should of just bit the bullet and just did it for his kids and family. im he should be happy, but he could have said no before he got married. and if he just turned gay that is totally wrong and now he doesnt see his wife as beauitful anymore bevause he would rather be in bed with a guy. now she has to grive for him being gay. how could he do that to her?!!?!
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